My train reading. I picked up (3) books by Ms. Grandin at Amazon....at the suggestion of our couples counselor, who compared Zippy's need for a calm, controlled living environment to Ms. Grandin's work with autism. I left the others back at the house for Zippy.
I cannot tell you how much that concept / insight has helped me so far - it made me look at Zippy's energy and needs much differently. I guess I've always seen it as different than my own needs (and probably less good) - but really its just different without a value. And instead of trying to react to Zippy, I need to kind of work with him proactively to make our shared environment and my interactions with him less abrasive, less agitating.